kathy1024 wrote:
Most mothers I know don't preach abstinence before marriage, because we are saying finish your education, start your career and then think about marriage. It's hard to advocate abstinence until late 20s or 30s. They talk about the importance of protection from pregnancy and disease. Most of my friends with girls do talk birth control options with their daughters.
I think that's because you're in NJ. Even when I was a teen in NJ, birth control options were openly discussed in schools, and so were all the myths about sex (including what lines boys would try to use on girls that were lies). We had very low teen pregnancy rates in our school, and for all that discussion of birth control options, a fairly good percentage of us managed to graduate from high school still virgins. Though, even then, a lot of the message was that you didn't want to get pregnant before you finished your education, because having a baby would make it impossible to finish school and have a good career, so we were taught to wait for someone special (not necessarily marriage) and responsible, and to use birth control. (The downside is I think my generation has gone too far to the other extreme of waiting until we have our careers on track before having kids, and many of us are pushing 40 and still unmarried and/or childless, and realizing we're probably not going to have children at all at our ages...but that's another issue entirely.)
On the other hand, it is VERY different out here in WV, and was very different when I lived in Cincinnati too (OH has mixed pockets of conservative and liberal cities; Cincinnati is one of the conservative ones). Here, people are very religious, and discussion of sexuality is still taboo (and don't even start on the topic of homosexuality). I see two completely disparate populations, the teens who rebel without any education about contraception who wind up pregnant, and the adult students who have remained abstinent, but are so incredibly sheltered that when I teach them about the reproductive system in college, they really are learning it for the first time.