There is also the other side of things. The kids, what they ask for and why. How seasoned Santas know what to say, especially in these tough times:
Kids to Santa: A job for mom and dad
RALEIGH, N.C. - A job for their mom or dad. Money for the heating bill. Food or a place to live. Maybe gloves or boots.
More and more, Santas say the children on their laps are asking for less for themselves — and Santa is promising less as well.
With
unemployment stubbornly high, more homes in foreclosure and the
economic outlook dim, many children who visit Santa are all too aware of
the struggle to make ends meet.
"These children understand the
conditions around the home when they ask for stuff," said Richard
Holden, a 69-year-old Santa from Gastonia, N.C. "They understand when
there are other children in the family, they need to be cautious or
thoughtful of them as well and not ask for 10 to 12 items."
Cliff Snider, who's been playing Santa since he was a teenager, agrees.
"I
think the parents are saying, 'It's an economic thing. Just list two to
three things you really want to have,'" he said. "Parents are trying to
encourage the children to be thrifty."
And the 64-year-old Snider
does his best to help out. When he gets a big-ticket request, he
typically responds: "There's an awful lot of children asking for that
this year. What else do you want?"
At the Charles W. Howard Santa Claus School, Santas learn lines like, "Wow, that's a big gift. Is there anything else you might like?"
These days, though, Santas are having to use it less and less.
"I
think it's becoming more popular not to have that long list," said Tom
Valent, dean of the Howard Santa school in Midland, Mich., which gets
more than 3,000 letters to Santa a year and just graduated its 75th
class. "Families are teaching their children to be as much of a giver as
a receiver."
Starlight Fonseca has been teaching her five
children, ages 5 to 14, "that we're not the only ones who have to cut
things back. We're not the only ones struggling."
The 31-year-old
mother and her husband Jose had been relying on a stipend from the
University of Texas law school that Fonseca lost when an illness made it
impossible for her to keep her grades up. She'd hoped to graduate in
May but was unable to attend school this semester and can't get student
loans due to poor credit.
Fonseca tells her kids that "to make it
fair for everyone, Santa has to cut back for everyone. ... We paint it
in a way that Santa is doing the best he can to make everybody happy at
Christmas."
Hard on older kids It's especially hard for the oldest children.
"They
were two little kids who used to be excited about Christmas, and now
they know every gift under the tree should have gone to the utility
company," she said. "It shouldn't be that way, but that's where we are
now."
Of course, Santas still see some kids like the 9-year-old
who pulled out a BlackBerry and showed Snider photos of all the things
he wanted. "It cracked me up," he said. (This kid and parents need to see my OP!)
Holden's response to a
long list is to say something like, "Why don't you narrow this down just
a little bit and choose two or three items you would really like?"
Sometimes he'll even mention prices, and say, "With things like they
are, Santa Claus will do what he can to help you get what you like. But
we can't make you any promises."
Tim Connaghan, who runs the
International University for Santa Claus in Riverside, Calif., conducts
an annual survey among the 500 Santas he employs. The economy has become
such a big issue that Connaghan asked them for advice on how to handle
some of the questions kids were asking about unemployed parents or
having to move.
"Let's all hope your dad will find a new job, or you will get into a new home," is one recommended response.
"Acknowledge
the problem, give them a positive response and say, 'Santa loves you,
too. Maybe I could get something special for you,'" said Connaghan.
"It's that quick, usually. But the hope is that when the child leaves,
he feels a little better."
Connaghan recalled the night he and
other Santas took some needy children shopping. One boy wanted to buy
toilet paper because his mother was taking napkins and paper towels from
a fast food restaurant for toilet paper.
"He wanted to buy her
real toilet paper — a common, everyday item that we all take for
granted," Connaghan said. "And this child is thinking this is a
Christmas gift."
Holden has had children ask for things like heat
at home. He'll tell the child Santa will do what he can, then try to let
the parents know about agencies that might help.
One child
returned a year later and "said she wanted to thank Santa for getting
her some help when they didn't have food or a place to stay." Someone
had overheard the conversation with Santa and helped the family.
"There's
more to being a Santa Claus than you think there is," Holden said. "You
don't just go 'ho, ho, ho,' pat them on the back of the head and send
them on their way. You get involved with them. ... You just make sure
they feel loved and they feel special when they leave your lap."
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